It's A Journey!

Today I feel like Cinderella reflecting on her wonderful evening at the Ball!  Last night I went to a show at Symphony Hall!  I have never been there and was in sheer awe at every detail of the building’s exterior, the interior and the hall itself.  The doors were leather with brass riveted fastenings, the details adorning the walls and ceilings and staircases alike were amazing.  The rugs were brilliant and royal and soft as I walked on them.  The front doors all open wide under the lit overhang which sat beneath the majestic flags that hung high near the roofline were welcoming and the staff with smiles on their faces stood at every door welcoming guests and assisting us to our seats.  It was absolutely the most beautiful building I’ve ever been in in my life.  As I sat in that brilliant hall in my seat watching just an incredible show I had something pop into my head that will be on my bucket list for sure.  I want to dance in Symphony Hall!  If I had my way, I would have been brave enough to try it, waiting for everyone to leave but that isn’t really feasible without some serious strings.  It’s actually more like a pipe dream from a combination of chick flicks out there that I’ve seen so many times.  In my fantasy the lights would be low, the tables and chairs would be cleared, the POPs would have stayed in their seats playing a dancing tune and my love would have led me to the middle of the floor for a dance while the Symphony Hall staff looked on thinking how lovely we looked.

Back to reality.  Things like that only happen in the movies but wouldn’t it be so wonderful if it actually happened? I think so and I plan on finding a way to indeed Dance at Symphony Hall!   EEJANAIKA (Japanese for What The Hell) you might be thinking.  Is this even related to Running?  The answer is actually yes!  This blog is mostly associated with running and fitness but it is also associated with having goals and being brave and being motivated which is more where this particular blog fits in.  I owe this bucket list addition to running in fact.   It is because of running that I feel like I can actually have a dream about dancing at Symphony Hall.  I am in shape now and I can dance and I now also feel comfortable in pretty clothes and flowy dresses that aren’t boxy that show off my much better shape.  Running has given me the confidence to even think that I would want to or could do that, a gift that just keeps on giving! Running has made me brave enough to have a bucket list and feel worthy of believing that I can do these things.  Running has given me a believe that I can and should experience amazing things.  I love running and all that it brings me…friends, happiness, confidence, strength, tenacity, motivation, memories and an updated bucket list!

PS: Someday I WILL dance at Symphony Hall, twirling round and round in a flowy dress and pretty dancing shoes to the music of the Boston Symphony Orchestra.   The lights down low glowing off the gold frosted walls of two tiers of balconies, caressing and flowing over ornately crafted walls and a ceiling that are intricately and delicately designed to catch and release light, memories and dreams.








My Biggest Reward

One of my favorite things about staying fit is being able to wear clothes that are not too big on purpose.  I spent a long time wearing boxy clothes and turtle necks that pretty much covered me up from neck to knees.  I hated the way I looked and did whatever I had to to cover that all up.  Since I began running and even more since I began strength training and riding my stationary bike, I can wear things that fit to my shape without worrying that I am drawing the wrong kind of attention or that someone will call animal control….kidding on that one but that’s how it felt.  I like wearing shorts even though my legs are not “perfect” and have cellulite frosting them pretty much from the knee up.  It’s ok, because first of all I’m 48 and will never again be 20.  Secondly I’m in the best shape of my life and feel great!  Tonight I have a date with my husband to attend an event at Symphony Hall in Boston.  This is so exciting in and of itself but what’s more exciting is that I bought a dress online that is form fitting and has this great print that I would never DARE wear back in the day when I was so self conscious.  This dress looks Damn good on me and makes me feel pretty.  It’s form fitting and clingy and you know what?  That’s ok with me.  Why?  Because all the work I do to run and stay in shape has paid off and will continue to do so for as long as I can do them.  I don’t need to feel like this every day but the confidence I have now because of running and working out is wonderful.  It’s an amazing thing after spending so long feeling sick to my stomach when I looked in the mirror to now look at myself and smile from every angle.  It’s my favorite benefit and improvement that only came to me through a lot of hard work and dedication.  Never give up!  Push through the hard days and stay the course until you get to where you want to be and most importantly, believe in yourself!  You’ll get there!  I’m here, I’m staying and I have running to thank for that.

What is your biggest reward from staying in shape?


I finished the book “When Breath Becomes Air” last night which was written by Paul Kalanithi.  Paul wrote this book because he found out he had terminal cancer and he wanted to document his journey as he faced his own mortality.  He wrote his journey from brilliant Neurosurgeon to Cancer patient.  Paul was quite interested in diving into looking death in the eyes and analyzing what death means and looking at it as a process instead of running away from it.  It is an honest book that I don’t know as if I could have written in the midst of suffering  from Cancer and watching myself wither from health to having people on my death watch just waiting for me to pass to move on.  It’s a good read and something that will not leave my mind.  You should read it.  THIS Ted talk by Lucy Kalanithi is what prompted me to read the book.

I thought about Paul this morning as I headed out to run and I thought about Lucy his widow and Cady his infant daughter who most likely won’t remember her father except in the things her family and her mother share with her.  I thought about my own life and thought about how I read and cried through this book and as my legs carried me over my three miles I confirmed with myself that if I face this same kind of decision in my life, I do NOT want to spend time chasing time if the outcome is sure to be finality.  I would rather spend my time simply talking to my family, and running,  having cookouts and creating memories and laughter than living in a hospital bed.  Everyone dies we just don’t know when we’ll die or how.  Why worry about it?  Every day and moment should be lived to the best of our ability being the best people we can be don’t you think?

I run because I want to be more healthy.  I want to be more healthy because I want to live as long of a life free from canes or adult diapers and medications as I can.  I started off running to run away from life’s problems.  I ran to save myself from deep dark places that the anti-depression commercials talk about.  I ran not to look forward but to not look back.  Things are much better now for me and I am probably the happiest I’ve ever been since getting married.  I now appreciate meaning in life and the joys that my family brings me, especially my children as they head into adulthood.  I now run to be able to have as many tomorrows as I can and to “experience” every day rather than just living every day.  Lucy and Paul “experienced” life and looked at life in a really analytical way both in life and through and during death.  Running saved me and has taught me to really appreciate and experience most everything.  Running has become the glue that keeps me sane, lets me analyze things so I can better understand them more like Paul and Lucy do.  Running lets me reflect on things that have happened and what my takeaways are a lot like Lucy and Paul did as they applied the lessons they were learning through their difficult journey through Paul’s illness.

It’s books like this that make me a better human who appreciates the important things in life over skimming through each day blindly, and it’s running that has allowed me to take all those moments and push them forward to tomorrow and the next days to come.  Life, like running has good days and bad, joy and pain, frustrations and memories, positives and negatives. We should know what we want from both, have goals for both, give mindful thought to the moments and milestones that we experience during both.



Be The Inspiration

Last night I did workout #2 in my basement and my son joined me.  He joined me more out of guilt for not wanting to and to avoid saying no again.  He isn’t the working out type.  Unlike my oldest son, he doesn’t want to work out.  He does do sports in school but doesn’t want to do the work to become as good as he can be at them.  Despite all our encouragement, nagging and pleading with him to stay healthy and put some effort into it, he avoids working out like the plague.  He works out sometimes with his brother and preferably if his father is also working out since his brother is kind of hard on his lack of form, effort and enthusiasm. Sometimes occasionally he will go for a run between 1-3 miles on his own but usually it’s because Football season will be starting or because he is trying to get his wind for Wrestling and sometimes it’s just to keep us off his back I think.  He will come with me when I run but usually takes the easy road out and rides his bike next to me.  Sometimes he runs with me but not usually and definitely not when it’s hot out because he isn’t good in the heat.

So last night he came down with me and decided to ride the bike first.  I did the second half of my Tabata workout which was everything but Abs since I did those in the morning. He did the bike that for about 15 or so minutes and then did two or three TRX exercises Tabata style and then he was done.  It was a “Meh” workout at best in my opinion.  I thought about that for a moment and I decided that it was better for him to have come down and done something than for him to have done nothing at all.  I remember being his age and the thought of working out.  I didn’t do that faithfully or nearly at all until I was in my 40’s and depressed and gaining weight.  I needed a reason that motivated me all by myself and I assume he will get there some day I hope.  It doesn’t matter how many times I ask, beg, nag or guilt or plead with him to work out because it won’t happen until he WANTS it to happen.  It’s like anything we do in this life.  You have to want to do it to make it happen and not find excuses not to do it.  He won’t until he wants to, period so until that time I believe it is my job to keep asking and inviting him to join me.  I know how hard it is trying to do something on your own without support so I will be his support system and just be there when / if he needs me to help him.  That’s all I can do.

I will continue to be the best me that I can and trying to be an example and a beacon of inspiration for my kids and anyone who wants to try who might just need support. Those are the people who don’t know how to start or keep going. The ones who have to talk themselves out of quitting every day who just need some encouragement.  THAT is who I feel compelled to reach out to.  That’s what I feel my job is at the moment so I will do it to the best of my ability.  Everyone starts somewhere and has someone from whom they draw inspiration and courage to try new things.  I run for those people because I was one of those people!  Those people who struggle every single day are best described by someone I admire every day and someone who makes me look forward to reading every blog and listening podcast that she puts out there for “those people” to read @KellyKKRoberts. Kelly Roberts is the Queen and Captain of the Sportsbra Squad.

I was a 3 miler until I met my friend Barbara who put it in my head that I could run 13.1 miles.  That seems like so long ago but I remember the conversation clearly and I remember thinking “can I?”  Turns out it sat in my ‘craw’ for a long time until I signed up for my first half marathon with encouragement from Barbara and my husband.  Look at me now!  Without someone to push me and allow me to go at my own pace I might not be where I am today.  I want to be able to do that same thing for anyone who might need it including my son, daughter and niece.


I saw a family member recently whom I haven’t seen in a really long time.  Life and responsibilities can be tremendous separators at times.  A guilt I have become accustomed to with family in VA and others that I just don’t get to see often.  I’m ok with it because it’s rather one sided anyway but that’s not for this blog.  So we were visiting and talking about health and how she is facing some challenges due to a diagnosis with what most likely will be a lifelong but not fatal issue.  It will be problematic for sure  and to some degree debilitating but not end of life stuff.  She had asked me if I would be willing to work out with her to keep her motivated and accountable for consistency.  I feel like she needs a coach of sorts which is ok with me as long as she’s motivated.  I’m not babysitting or chasing anyone and I really hope her conveyed intentions are genuine because excuse city and whining are not something I deal with.   I hate both.  I’m willing to give it a go with an open understanding between us. She understanding that I will demand all she can tolerate and give me, no excuses and focus.  I understanding that she is limited at times to what she will be able to tolerate and how much effort she will be able to put in.  As long as those two things are understood I think we should be good.  So we were talking about how I workout all the time and some differences between her mother and myself and my daughter pipes in and says “Mom, your aging has gone backwards.”  Instant ear to ear grin knowing that what I’m doing and how hard I’m working must be working. When your kids tell you that you look good you know they are proud of you and that is the best compliment I could ever get!  It made me feel really good and now of course I’m super motivated to keep going, keep trying and keep hustling to be the best and healthiest me that I can be.  When someone comes to you to ask you for help it’s a compliment to what you are doing.  They are proud of you and want in some way to replicate for themselves what you are doing for yourself.  When someone asks your opinion on health, fitness, workouts schedules and equipment or makes comments on your social media posts about what you are doing it’s a compliment.  It means people believe in you and admire you for your determination.  It’s like getting a gold star on your paper from the teacher that you brought home to show mom.  When that happens it’s a level of achievement that goes beyond a habit.  It’s deeper and more meaningful because other people now believe in and want what you have.  Keep going and sharing your knowledge and offering your help to everyone if you can.  People believe what they see and what they hear that is proven by what they see.  Proof in the pudding so to speak.  Keep going, you’re doing something great!  Pass it on!


Today I ran 9 miles.  Next week is my race so this is the last “training” run before I dive into continuance with long long runs to prep for my July half.  I was dragging my feet before I left but I’m not sure why.  I wanted to go, was ready to go but wasn’t in a rush to actually go.  I left just after 7 am to avoid  the heat of the day but that was not to be.  I picked a route that was almost as hilly as a 9 mile run around my town could get because I want to start preparing for the hills of VT in November.  The only way to do that is to start running them now and keep running them.   The hills were fine but the damn heat was opressive.  This is the first hot day that I’ve been out there and boy is my body hating me even now 3 hours post run.  I feel like I’m still cooking and I”m really tired.  I probably am just shy of being well hydrated.  I didn’t drink enough water yesterday so I don’t think today was destined to go well.  I made it to just over 1 mile and called one of my kids to drop off a powerade for me to grab when I went by my neighborhood.  I knew early that it was going to be challenging and I should have taken water with me in the first place.  I felt ok after I had hydrated but the heat was really bothersome.  I stopped every mile to drink and had to do some serious ass kicking to stay motivated to keep going.  I wanted to quit in the worst way but I’m not wired to quit so stops on the mile and staying in as much shade as I could was the name of the game.  The further I went, the harder it was and the more tired my legs got.  My eyes were swelling a bit but onward  I pressed.  I can imagine what I looked like to the drivers passing me, standing there huffing and puffing looking pathetic and tired.   It couldn’t have been too bad because no one stopped to see if I needed help.  Mile 5 was the hardest on me but was faster than mile 1 but mile 1 was straight up a huge hill so that makes sense.  When I was done I was really happy to be done.  Some runs are just better than others.  Well, Summer is here and I have too many races lined up to complain about it so we’ll just move on.  I’m happy to be in my AC house right now writing this.  Every run makes you better whether it’s good or not.


Now I’ve Done It!

That right there proves that I am either very brave or super stupid!  That is the elevation profile for the VT 10 mile inaugural race I just signed up for with some friends that will take place in November.  Let’s just think about this for a moment shall we?  First, I have run hills before. The Lynchburg half marathon had a hill that had a 200 foot incline over the course of a mile.  That was super hard and probably harder than this one will be…..I digress.  This race that I am challenging myself to has a 600 ft incline gain over 4 of 10 miles.  Did I just write that?  Wait!  Go back and let’s say that slowly together shall we….

“h  a  s      a         6   0    0        f   o   o   t       g  a  i  n          o  v  e  r         4         m  i   l  e  s”

I have lost my mind but I’ll be suffering with my friends and away on a girls weekend so it will make for some great laughs in the ambulance ride home that night… I’m kidding!  It will be fun and how do I know if I can or can’t do it until I actually try to do it right??  RIGHT!  So here begins my super charged workouts for core core core and some serious hill work so I don’t die.  I’m actually kind of excited about the challenge.  I’ve been running for almost 6 years now and all my races have been “safe” ones.  I don’t usually take on scary race routes but maybe it’s time I do!  If I can do this then I’m definitely moving the Marine Corps Marathon from the “potential races to run if ever I’m brave enough or dumb enough to run a marathon” bucket to the “hell yeah this one is definitely a contender when the time comes” bucket!  I was more concerned with being able to run with friends than I was with the course, after all it’s an inaugural, how bad can it be.  Lesson learned.  Secondly, this race is in NOVEMBER.   November in VT that is.  It’s like the arctic compared to where I am even though I live in New England.  Vermont is a separate planet to me sort of like Wisconsin or Michigan.  In fact I just looked it up and the average HIGH in Stowe VT in the entire month of November is 33 degrees.  In 2015 it was a 57 / 46 hi low split but last year it was a 33 / 22 day.  I guess it’s a crap shoot on whether or not my tears will be freezing or not as I cry my way to mile 5!  LOL

Running has brought me friends who understand my passion, don’t criticize me when I do things that seem odd just to run and who support my new bad habit of obsessing over running gear.  Hanging out with these ladies is worth this mother effing hill!  It’s all good.  Besides I’m looking forward to seeing how much I can push myself to accomplish.  It might just be the thing that makes me braver and bolder and imagine what I’ll be able to do if I can do this without walking or stopping …actually imagine if I just finish!  Bring it on baby!  I’m ready to step it up….literally!









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