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You Have to WANT to

ifThere are things in this life that I have a willingness to accept.  Lack of ability, lack of money, lack of resources and maybe a couple of other things.  I am, however, unwilling to accept excuses and lack of effort!  Whining about something that really is an unwillingness to make an effort to change just makes me angry.  Stop complaining about whatever it is if you are unwilling to do anything about it.  Whining doesn’t fix it. I can’t stand it.  I have never tolerated it from my children and it drives me insane when I hear someone doing it.  I totally concede that it is one thing if you truly CAN’T because you do not have the ability to do it or you would die if you did do it, but anything other than those few reasons is just an excuse.  I don’t really tolerate it well because I would never do it.  If I want to change something I just do whatever I need to in order to make it better period.  I don’t sit around whining about it or wishing it were just all of a sudden better or non-existent.  I buckle down and make it better by making changes or I don’t complain.

Most of the time, I find that it is because the real reason is that someone doesn’t want to do whatexcuses it takes to fix it.  Let’s just take gaining weight as an example because I lived this one.  If you have gained weight and don’t fit into your regular clothes but don’t want to get up at 5am to run or work out, why not?  What are you doing with your 24 hours a day?  Really, this is an actual question that needs to be looked at.  Now, I don’t mean that you should cut sleep but there are definitely hours that are being wasted for no reason.  Let’s see…. there are: gaps between classes/ errands & daily tasks, you have an hour for lunch, there are hours after work and before bed,  there are hours after school and before work, there are early am hours before your day and maybe a few other places where unutilized hours pass by.  I’m 47 and have 3 kids.  Now two are in College but a few years ago they were not.  I get up at 5 and make them ALL Breakfast and lunch and after work I make them dinner too because I WANT to.  I clean the house, do laundry, grocery shop, work full time and I fit in a workout nearly every day wherever I can.

This is my CHOICE.  I make lunch the night before so that at 6am when breakfast is done, I can go for a 3-5 mile run…or an hour workout.  IF I choose not to run in the morning I either do it on3 my lunch hour or right after work.  YES I give up lunch to run because running / health / eating yummy food is more important to me than sitting around on my lunch doing nothing.  YES I sweat but I wash up after my run with soap and water and a cloth.  I use deodorant so I don’t smell, I bring a change of underwear and I get it done. If I don’t WANT to run at lunch I run right after work and before I make dinner…I MAKE DINNER TOO!  Everyone waits for me or they make their own dinner if they are super hungry.  You see, where there is a will, there is a way but you have to have a will to make the sacrifice in order to get it done.

Life is busy and time consuming but you have to remember that YOU are important and you have to take time for yourself to stay healthy, happy & sane.  me-vs-meTrust me.  This is coming from someone who not long ago, suffered a huge blow to her happy life.  I got laid off 4 TIMES IN A ROW, had some massive personal and marital issues to handle, gained 50 lbs, bordered on suicidal, fought big time depression all while putting on my stupid fake happy face so my kids would not know / see what I was struggling with.  I couldn’t just give up because that’s not me.  I found time to fix my marriage, work situation, health and life because I WANTED to.  It’s not different than an alcoholic.  They have to WANT to get sober before they CAN get sober.  All things are possible with faith in God, motivation and determination.   That’s me…I did it and you can do it too!

These     songs helped me keep going when I didn’t want to.  If you are struggling, I hope they help you too!

Rachel Platten- Fight Song                Rodney Atkins- If You’re Going Through Hell

HAPPY RUNNING!

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