One of the things I like about being in my position having come from a weight problem, depression, eating issues and lack of motivation is my ability to speak from experience. It’s one thing to try and make someone feel better by telling them that they will get there but it’s entirely another to look them in the eye and tell them with complete conviction that only they can reach their goals through making a change. Telling someone that they have to change their habits and be motivated and determined and focused. Assuring them with the tone of my voice that it can in fact be done but they have to WANT to do it. I’ve said it before and I’ll continue to say it till I die, unless you are in a wheelchair, dying or dead, where there’s a will there’s a way. Blind people have run marathons, people without limbs compete in all kinds of sports, fat people lose hundreds of pounds without surgery and why? Because they have sheer determination and will power to do what it takes to get it done. It’s funny how having experience changes how you say something to someone looking for advice. Not having experience makes you want to tiptoe around feelings and impressions. Having experience waives all that because you know how to get it done because you’ve done it and you didn’t accept excuses from yourself and you’re not about to accept them from anyone else. The bottom line advice is Just Go Do It! Period. I did it and so can you! What are you waiting for?
Either I’m getting better at running faster or I’m just in better shape. Either way, I have been able to pull off a few miles under 9:00 which I haven’t seen in a LOOOOOONG time. I feel awesome just because I always do when I’m running but this last week I feel fast like a cheetah hitting sub 9’s. I imaging, knowing it’s just in my head, that the drivers that pass turn their head to look at me and think to themselves “wow, look at that girl go!” It’s probably more like “hey she’s running funny. Is she ok?” I have what my kids refer to as the BRENNA WOBBLE. Yep I am a category! That’s ok, I think it’s cute that they have a name for it. They can actually pick me out of a crowd of many many people just by the way I move. It amuses me.
Maybe hitting those times (8:53 mile 4 today) is because in the back of my mind I want it more and more. I think about improved times during every run and try to get at least one mile that skirts the nine minute mark. I think once you set your mind to something it just happens. I’m not one for excuses, in fact I hate people that just find one for everything. When I hear “I can’t” and I know that you in fact CAN but just don’t want to it makes me insane! Just who I am. What will be interesting to see is what some speed workouts do for hitting those marks. We’ll see.
What are some goals you’ve been surprised that you hit? Did it drive you to set bigger goals or keep pushing to hit it consistently?
Sometimes life is so simple that when you have these moments of realization amidst the challenges that we face and the day to day tasks we take on, it stops us in our tracks. I saw a video of at an awards ceremony recently and his little 3 minute speech was one of those moments for me. I stopped to think about it. In life there are 3 things that motivate him which we all should give thought to and define for ourselves.
- We should have someone to look up to
- We should have something to look forward to
- We should have someone to chase (who is your hero)
These things seem so simple yet they are probably the three things we think about least. Life is truly very simple when we step away from the craziness that we invoke upon ourselves each day. We must work to eat and pay bills. We have children who have the luxury of doing a million things that add to the busy life we call hectic. Those activities inevitably cost money and our hysterically boisterous commotion of a life just keeps going in circles while we wonder why we don’t have what we want. Step away from that and define these three things for yourself and suddenly what you “need” will rise to the surface and lay a much more clear path to getting it. There are nice to have’s and need to have’s and as a people we misclassify wants as needs, getting lost in a process the is superfluous at best. Why do we refocus when people die using phrases like “life is short” or “I wish I had”? If we define our 3 things there will be less use of these statements because our focus will be much clearer.
These three things in part are what I think about when I run. The road is a place for me to work shit out. To think about my life and where I am going and how I am getting there. I think a lot about priorities and try to de-clutter my mind with woulda coulda shoulda or things I don’t have to focus on what I do have. I think a lot about what if I chased what I don’t have, would the grass really be greener or would I just realize that the sun was shining brighter at that moment over the fence. Most likely the latter is true and I come back to center to appreciate all I have remembering what is really important in my life. Running has been good to me in many ways. It has reshaped a misshapen me in mind, body and spirit. It has been my amazing therapist, councilor and friend in good and bad times and I owe my life to running quite literally.
Whether you run or not doesn’t matter. Yes, I think everyone should have some level of fitness, however the more important thing is finding your 3 things and simplifying your life. Life is short and you should appreciate and enjoy it not just on occasion but every single day and give thanks for all you have. Today is a great day to begin anew. You just need to take the first step.